Question by : Why am I so scared to have kids? My marriage depends on it....please help!?
Hi, I sure could use some feedback! I have knots in my stomach! My husband of one and a half years moved out two weeks ago. We have been fighting a lot. While he calls me an "antogonist", I feel he reacts very inappropriately with his anger...yells, swears, has pushed me around, takes off on me, and hangs up on me if we are on the phone. Yet on the other hand, I really love him and he can be sweet, kind and caring. I know he really loves me but his anger is an issue. I believe he learned a lot of this as a child.

The fighting became too much and he moved out but we are currently committed to trying to work things out. He started counseling and I start this week too. We are going to individual for now and perhaps couples counseling down the road.

We still see each other and are getting along better than ever. I really don't want to lose him. But both of us living together we mostly were hating each other....he can get mad at me easily, says I don't listen to him, etc. I usually have passive hostility towards him, angry at him that he is angry at me, or that he treated me a certain way. Especialy when he has pushed me around in the past, the last time a month ago. About five times total. It takes a lot for me to "come around" again...

One topic we fight about is having children. I am 38 1/2 years old, not a lot of time left....when we married I said I'm not sure I want kids, he said, ok, i just love you and i already have a kid...he has a kid but she lives quite a distance aways and he doesn't see her a lot. He misses her a lot and this a big source of pain for him that he struggles with all the time. He misses his kid and only gets to see her once or twice a year. But they seem to have a good bond and relationship.

I keep saying, well, stop threatening to leave me and swearing at me and maybe I'll have a kid. He now says he thought I was enough but now he knows he really wants a family. He says he is going to leave me for good if I don't agree to at least try to have a baby with him. He says the source of his anger and hostility towards me has been because I DON'T want to have his kid....so therefore he feels that if i have his kid, he won't be angry at me anymore.

I am a professional, think I'm pretty intelligent and usually make very "safe" moves....but yet I'm kinda gullible/naive at times....I'm not seeing the "writing on the wall" so to speak...i really don't want to lose him, but I really don't know if I want a kid at all, plus I'm afraid that he won't really change and then we'll end up divorced PLUS have custody issues.

Plus I kinda resent that he seems so willing to walk away if I don't have a kid....but then i think, if I lose him, I'll be alone by myself, and never have the chance to have a kid and that I'll spend the rest of my life letting my one chance to have a family slip away and that I'll regret it for the rest of my life...

I even think at times, as bad as this is, I should just "trick" him and say I can't get pregnant or ensure it, but then again, that is really totally desperate and how could I live with myself?

How am I going to make this decision? I feel like I may regret it if I do, yet possibly regret it if I don't!

All of your comments are greatly appreciated, I really need some points of view!

thank you

Best answer:

Answer by Visdovert
O___O go to couples therapy or get divorced.....

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Question by kombatmaster12: How do I fix my VERY frustrating laptop mouse keys.?
Alright, ever since my mother started using Facebook back in June last year, she has become addicted to it and stole my laptop a lot to check her annoying virtual farm and frontier. She made the screen lag and she has a nasty habit of mashing in the mouse keys and typing very slow and "aggressively" on the keyboard and tends to destroy the mouse keys. Whenever I need to use the computer for some usage I can't stand it! The mouse key looks normal. It's a VAIO Sony Vista VGN and the mouse looks fine. Although if I gently tap the key it will not work, you know the average tap to make it so it doesn't break it! I can never get it to work. It starts at the left and it won't work from any direction but right where it's still held up. Essentially it's mashed into the computer at an angle on the click to where i have to push my thumb into the key to make it work correctly and hold it down to stay. Sometimes it even slips and messes up all sorts of files and work I do on it because of the sticking. I have never dared pry open the computer to check but have tried air dusting, pushing it up with a small metal strip, and even mashing it in from the other side. Shortly after one fit of rage when trying to play The Sims 3, I got frustrated and rapped my finger against the key and it killed my computer to a loud and annoying chirping sound followed by a distorted screen and no controls but to start the computer over.This has become more sensitive after that and I can't raise a temper with it or it will do the same and I lose a lot of work. The right key is just fine and you can noticeably feel the difference in the key height as well. I have no access to a vehicle and my father likes to save every penny he can and assumes taking things into a shop means that the thing is broken. The other issue is that my mother likes to stay on my computer and hoard it for hours on end on Facebook being a "rash" to everyone on her list and helping with their non existent potatoes. This makes it harder to keep the mouse "safe" and it makes me frustrated that she ruined my only thing the house that I earned myself and have registered to me. It's like my own property essentially and I hate it that I never get to use it and when I do it's slow from Facebook stuff she downloads and the mouse being all to hell and the keys "popped." The bottom line is this:is there a way to save my mouse before I just throw the damn thing into the wall and light it on fire in rage? I also hate having to use hotkeys for just about every single thing on my laptop as well because of the lack of mouse function. (spell check was hard to fix the few mistakes on this by the way.) Please help me and 10 points to best answer and no "get a new computer" comments please or I'll just mark them as spam and ignore them. (If you can even do that on YahooAnswers) PS: I DO HAVE A USB MOUSE but the same thing happened to it, Facebook, mash, dead, won't even work with fresh batteries.

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Answer by ROD S
Whether you like the answer or not, you have to face facts. Your laptop (as described in your very, very long question) will take major overhauling to be put right. And while your Mother continues to abuse the laptop, then you would be wasting money in getting it repaired.
The only solution is to get another laptop, use strong BIOS and User passwords so your Mother can't use it, and lock it away in your bedroom! Leave your Mother using the old and rather battered heap of junk!

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Question by Book_worm: Do I invite my best friend (who's not talking to me) to my daughter's birthday party?
I'm 23 years old, and I have a 10 1/2 months old daughter. Her 1st birthday is coming up, and this is very important to me... Do I invite my best friend and her 2 year old daughter? She is not talking to me because.... here's the story:
She's started college in January and asked me to let her borrow my $ 200 graphing calculator. I did, but I told her the price, and to take care of it, and that I was going to need it for the summer semester, because I'm going back to school. So In May, I told her I was going to need it by the beginning of June... She wasn't using it, but still didn't give it to me. I asked her many times in the course of 3 weeks. Then, she texted 3 days before class started and said she had lost. That she didnt have $ 200, but that she was gonna "ask her dad or something". I told her, ok. Do that, cuz I need it. Then I asked her the day before class started and she said she didnt have it. I said "well, you could use your financial aid money, and if you find the calc, you can keep it, since you'll need it". She said no. That IF she bought me one it would be a used one. I said "you're very irresponsible. I trusted you would keep it safe". That was it. She got me a calculator (used and written on), and I haven't heard from her since then (almost 2 months). She had me listed as a sister on facebook, and took me off it (my friend told me) and I cant see her wall (I can see pics, info, etc. but not the wall). She didnt delete me, just bloked me. I'm not mad at her for losing my calc. All I said was that she was irresponsible, which is true. She has stoped talking to me before, cuz she wants me to be the one to look for her, but, since I did nothing wrong, I dont see why I would have to apologize.....

Now, back to my question, I was thinking I should send her an invitation in the mail, and maybe that would fix things... I really want her daughter to be there. She's like my niece. I was even there when she was born (in the labor room). My husband said I shouldn't invite her.

Best answer:

Answer by melissa
i think she's being very immature. I would send and invitation to her, because her daughter didnt do anything wrong and it also shows that you're the bigger person. I wouldn't want to be friends with a person like that though.

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Question by Book_worm: Do I invite my best friend (who's not talking to me) to my daughter's birthday party?
I'm 23 years old, and I have a 10 1/2 months old daughter. Her 1st birthday is coming up, and this is very important to me... Do I invite my best friend and her 2 year old daughter? She is not talking to me because.... here's the story:
She's started college in January and asked me to let her borrow my $ 200 graphing calculator. I did, but I told her the price, and to take care of it, and that I was going to need it for the summer semester, because I'm going back to school. So In May, I told her I was going to need it by the beginning of June... She wasn't using it, but still didn't give it to me. I asked her many times in the course of 3 weeks. Then, she texted 3 days before class started and said she had lost. That she didnt have $ 200, but that she was gonna "ask her dad or something". I told her, ok. Do that, cuz I need it. Then I asked her the day before class started and she said she didnt have it. I said "well, you could use your financial aid money, and if you find the calc, you can keep it, since you'll need it". She said no. That IF she bought me one it would be a used one. I said "you're very irresponsible. I trusted you would keep it safe". That was it. She got me a calculator (used and written on), and I haven't heard from her since then (almost 2 months). She had me listed as a sister on facebook, and took me off it (my friend told me) and I cant see her wall (I can see pics, info, etc. but not the wall). She didnt delete me, just bloked me. I'm not mad at her for losing my calc. All I said was that she was irresponsible, which is true. She has stoped talking to me before, cuz she wants me to be the one to look for her, but, since I did nothing wrong, I dont see why I would have to apologize.....

Now, back to my question, I was thinking I should send her an invitation in the mail, and maybe that would fix things... I really want her daughter to be there. She's like my niece. I was even there when she was born (in the labor room). My husband said I shouldn't invite her.

Best answer:

Answer by melissa
i think she's being very immature. I would send and invitation to her, because her daughter didnt do anything wrong and it also shows that you're the bigger person. I wouldn't want to be friends with a person like that though.

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by ell brown

Question by : Do you agree with John Stossel when he says that politics gets in the way of balancing the budget?

http://www.freedompolitics.com/articles/billion-2400-budget-cut.html

The Congressional Budget Office says the current year's budget deficit will be a record $ 1.5 trillion. It also says that over the next decade we're on track for annual deficits of "only" $ 768 billion. I suspect the CBO has hired Rosy Scenario to do the bookkeeping, but let's take that number at face value.

I'm now going to balance the budget, with the help of some experts.

I'll begin with things I'm most eager to cut. Let's privatize air traffic control. Canada did it, and it works better. Then privatize Amtrak. Get rid of all subsidies for rail. That'll save $ 12 billion.

End subsidies for public broadcasting, like NPR. Cancel the Small Business Administration. Repeal the Davis-Bacon rules under which the government pays union-set wages to workers on federal construction projects. Cut foreign aid by half (although we should probably get rid of all of it). So far, that's $ 20 billion.

Oops. That doesn't dent the deficit. We have to do much more.

So eliminate the U.S. Education Department. We'd save $ 94 billion. Federal involvement doesn't improve education. It gets in the way.

Agriculture subsidies cost us $ 30 billion a year. Let's get rid of them. They distort the economy. We should also eliminate Housing and Urban Development. That's $ 53 billion more.

Who needs the Energy Department and its $ 20 billion sinkhole? The free market should determine energy investments.

And let's end the war on drugs. In effect, it's a $ 47 billion subsidy for thugs in the black market.

I've already cut six times more than President Obama proposed in his State of the Union address. His freeze of nondefense discretionary spending would save only $ 40 billion.

But my cuts still total only $ 246 billion. If we're going to get rid of the rest of the CBO's projected deficit, we must attack the "untouchable" parts of the budget, starting with Social Security. Raising the retirement age and indexing benefits to inflation would save $ 93 billion. I'd save more by privatizing Social Security, but our progressive friends won't like that, so for now I'll ignore privatization.

The biggest budget busters are Medicare and Medicaid, and get this: the 400 subsidy programs run by HHS. Assuming I take just two-thirds of the Cato Institute's suggested cuts, that saves $ 281 billion.

How about the Defense Department's $ 721 billion? Much of that money could be saved if the administration just shrank the military's mission to its most important role: protecting us and our borders from those who wish us harm. Today, we have more than 50,000 soldiers in Germany, 30,000 in Japan and 9,000 in Britain. Those countries should pay for their own defense. Cato's military cuts add up to $ 150 billion.

I've now cut enough to put us $ 2 billion in surplus!

Can we go further?

"Repeal Obamacare," syndicated columnist Deroy Murdock said.

Reason magazine editor Matt Welch wants to cut the Department of Homeland Security, "something that we did without 10 years ago."

But don't we need Homeland Security to keep us safe?

"We already have law enforcement in this country that pays attention to these things. This is a heavily bureaucratized organization.

"Cut the Commerce Department," Mary O'Grady of The Wall Street Journal said. "If you take out the census work that it does, you would save $ 8 billion. And the rest of what it does is really just collect money for the president from business."

As the bureaucrats complain about proposals to make tiny cuts, it's good to remember that disciplined government could make cuts that get us to a surplus in one year. But even a timid Congress could make swift progress if it wanted to. If it just froze spending at today's levels, it would almost balance the budget by 2017. If spending were limited to 1 percent growth each year, the budget would balanced in 2019. And if the crowd in Washington would limit spending growth to about 2 percent a year, the red ink would almost disappear in 10 years.

As you see, the budget can be cut. Only politics stand in the way.

Best answer:

Answer by Politika
No, politics affect budgets directly, not indirectly. Without politics, there would be no budgets to be set nor regulated.

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Question by : What should I do? Girl issues?
I'm gonna make this as short as possible.

A week ago a girl (Lacie) started talking to me on facebook, and we hit it off, later we exchanged numbers, and we text'd the rest of the day (Wednesday) and the next day she was like "We needa hang out" I was already gonna ask her this, but wanted to wait a bit longer before asking her out on a date, just to get to know her a bit more, but anyways I agreed, and was very excited about it, and so was she.

So we decided to make the date on Friday, just two days after we started talking, as I talked to her a bit more I found out she had to go to her uncles funeral on that Friday, and that she had added me on Facebook awhile back, and has had a crush on me, and was always scared to even speak to me. But as we txt'd more she would use smiley faces non-stop, txt me constantly, and would send me pictures of her smiling, and saying how happy she was that we were talking.

Anyways as the date went on, we got along great, she flirted the whole time, kept telling me things we need to do on other dates, talked non-stop had a good time, and at the end she told me how it was the best Friday night/Date she's ever been on, so as I walked her to the door, I decided to just give her a hug, didn't wanna rush anything by a kiss, and right before I got back into my car she yells "Text me when you get back home, so I know you made it home safe." Cause I live 40 minutes away.

Anyways I txt'd her once I got home, and we talked for a min. and she told me "Text me as soon as you wake up!" So I do just that, and she didn't really talk much, she said (I'm having a bad day) So I told her I'd text her later, and I did, and once again she wasn't saying much, so this was at about 6 P.M. so I just decided not to text till she did, she texts me the next day (Sunday) and says "Sorry about yesterday I was having a bad day." So I tried to comfort her and tell her it was all good, and asked her for a second date, and she agreed to it, with many smiley faces.

But after that she stopped talking to me again, (About 1P.M.) so I hit up my Friend Ashley, who is also Lacie's best friend, to ask her if Lacie has talked much to her, and Ashley said "No, she hasn't, something seems to be wrong, idk what it's from, she had her uncles funeral, shes graduating from school, and having some family problems, so just let her know that you are there for her, and that'll you do whatever it takes to make her happy."

So I sent her a email, doing as Ashley said, and she sent me a text saying "Thank you so much for the email, you are sooo sweet!:):):):)" and once again she stopped texting me after that.

So now to today (Monday) I have noticed she hasn't done anything on facebook except poke me and comment on my status's, so I texted Ashley (Lacies friend) and asked if Lacie has said much to her, and she said "Nope, not really, she only seems to be talking to you but just a lil' bit, she's kinda shut everyone down a bit." So I tried sending her a txt and didn't get a reply ha figures.

Then later on FB she finally posted on her wall, that she went on another date with another guy, and yes I realize she ain't tied down, but at the same time, I just don't know if she led me on to a point, or what I should do, is she just stressed from all that has gone on, orrrrrr lol I just don't know...

So any advice as to what to do, or what you believe I did wrong would be great! Cause I'm completely lost at this point, and once again I'm sorry for the novel. ha
**Also I'm guessing it would be best to follow through with the second date even though she went on a date with another guy today, and since she hasn't spoke much to me as of late? Yeah I like her quite a bit actually, it's been awhile where a girl has been on my mind non-stop.

The only thing I'm really concerned about me continuing to try and talk to her is, I don't wanna over do it and make it seem like I'm a creep, or something to that extent, I'm not sure where to draw the lines, I'm concerned she is having a troubling time, and I wanna help, but I don't wanna be a bother also...**

Best answer:

Answer by Jarrod
You haven't done anything wrong, you've played all the right cards and its up to her to sort herself out. She's obviously confused at the moment so keep trying to text her and communicate with her, she might just be feeling confused.

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